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Oral Sex

Part 1

Men and women have been using their mouths to stimulate each other sexually since the beginning of time. Somewhere in this period men found out that kissing a woman’s vulva worked to arouse them sexually. Some enterprising woman also found out that men liked their penises sucked. Thus these two acts become a normal part of foreplay to prepare each other for intimacy and hopefully receiving a sexual climax. 

Developing an understanding of the intimate feelings and emotions that occur while you’re performing oral sex and how to respond to those feelings can be more very emotionally satisfying. Both the man and woman need to become aware of what the other’s emotional needs are and react to them.

Good sex isn’t just the pleasure of reaching a climax, it’s when you share each other’s pleasures that it becomes extremely sensual and produces great sexual excitement for both.  While giving oral sex you feel your partner getting intensely excited your sexual juices will also begin to flow thus giving you great emotional and sexual satisfaction. Oral sex   can be equally pleasurable for both the giver and the receiver.   Oral sex is as much attitude as it is the act itself.

We have only dealt here with the attitude concerning oral sex.  In our future parts we will be dealing with the various techniques oral sex.

EXPANDING YOUR SEX LIFE 
WHAT IS THE G-SPOT?
The Grafenberg spot is an area on the anterior or front wall of the vagina, between the opening and the cervix, which is often found to be extremely sensitive to stimulation. It is hypothesized that the G-spot is either 1) a bundle of nerves coming from the clitoris, or 2) a gland or series of glands that produces lubrication. It is thought to be perhaps analogous to the prostate gland in men.
WHAT IS FEMALE EJACULATION?
Female ejaculation is the expelling of fluid from or around the urethra. This fluid is not urine, and is often accompanied by a powerful orgasm. Stimulation of the G-Spot is thought to potentially cause this.
HOW DO I FIND THE G-SPOT?
Insert one or two fingers in the vagina with the palm facing the pubic bone. Gently bend your fingers ‘forward’ so that they stroke the anterior wall of the vagina. You may feel a raised spot or series of ridges, or you may feel nothing in particular. The woman may find this extremely pleasurable, or have an urge to urinate, or both. Stroking this spot with varying degrees of pressure will tell you if you’ve got it or not.
DOES EVERYONE HAVE A G-SPOT?
No. Your mileage may vary. Just as some woman find clitoral stimulation more or less pleasurable than others, G-spot response varies from woman to woman, and some may find it unpleasant or simply not special.

 Anal stimulation provides many kinds of pleasureThe highest concentration of nerve endings is around the anal opening itself. A finger can focus on them especially effectively. When an object or penis is inserted beyond the anal opening into the rectum, other pleasures are involved. The outer portion of the rectum, like the vagina, has several nerve endings. The inner portion responds mostly to pressure.

In men, the prostate - which is just beyond the rectal wall, a few inches in, towards the front of the body - can be a source of pleasure when massaged by a finger, an object, or a penis. Also, the lower end of the penis, or “bulb,” is near the anal opening opening. Most types of anal sex stimulate it indirectly.

Using our Bend Over Beginner Kit will allow anal beginners to experience the ultimate pleasures of anal sex.  Being well-lubricated  will enhance the pleasure and will allow for deep penetration.   

Anal pleasure can be psychological as well as physical. The anal taboo adds to the thrill of the forbidden. The most common anti-anal message (it’s dirty!) sometimes returns as a source of raunchy, sleazy excitement. Rimming enthusiasts may enjoy the feeling that they are being disgustingly - and delightfully - perverse. Other people regard the anus as a secret, special place. Sharing it with a partner is an act of openness and giving.

A harness is something you strap onto your pelvis to hold a dildo just over your pubic bone, which you can then use to penetrate your partner either vaginally or anally almost as if you had a flesh-and-blood penis. This is a powerful fantasy for some men and women, though certainly not all. However, like anything else in life that’s safe, if you’re not sure whether you’d like it or not then you’re probably better off trying it at least once, so you and your partner can have more time in your lives to enjoy it if you find that it’s something you both enjoy.

Right now, the preferred harness/dildo combination definitely seems to be the extremely well constructed BEND OVER BEGINNER KIT. This affords both vaginal and anal dildos to satisfy both male and female desires. Many other examples of dildos and harnesses can be found in our STRAPON section.

 Tips: When using a harness, imagine that the dildo is actually part of your body (for most people this makes it easier to control). Also, if you have problems with your dildo slipping out of your partner, select a dildo with a slightly bulbous “head” so that the increased resistance will alert you when it’s about to pop out.

Toys for Women

For Having Orgasms With: Vibrators

If you’re female, or have a female partner, a vibrator is the toy most likely to make the biggest difference to your sex life. Many women have their first orgasm with a vibrator, and most women find it easier to reach orgasm with a vibrator then by any other way. Furthermore, most women cannot reach orgasm through intercourse alone (not through any lack of appreciation or love for their partners, and not through any failing at all on their partner’s part, rather just through how the female body is constructed), so if you’re a male with a female partner and think it would be sexy and hot for her to have an orgasm while you’re having intercourse, a vibrator could be the best present you could get.

Note we’re just talking about vibrators that are meant to stimulate the clitoris, i.e. which are used externally, rather than inserted into the vagina. Regardless of what image may pop into your head when you hear the word “vibrator,” the external kind is by far the most effective for having orgasms, and by far the most commonly recommended (not to mention that they can then also be used during intercourse with a partner).

For Enhancing Your Orgasms:

 G-Spot Toys and Dildos

Once you’ve become comfortable using a vibrator on your clitoris, there are two different directions it might be fun to explore: either using a firm G-spot toy to also deliver firm pressure against your G-spot, or else using a dildo so that you can enjoy a fuller and more satisfied feeling while using your vibrator. Before beginning, please keep in mind that any toy you penetrate yourself with is going to feel better if you first apply a little water-based lube to it: good lube choices are covered on our website: Nitemood Products

When your partner is out of town, or when the two of you cannot be together for some reason, make love over the phone…

Phone sex can be very smutty, highly romantic, or anything in between. Nasty and starry-eyed, naughty and nice. Yes! You can be naughty and romantic at the same time.

Create a sexual fantasy, you can pretend you’re together making love, or you can pretend you’re strangers. Read aloud to each other from an erotic book, or just describe aloud what you are doing to your own body as you stimulate yourself…. ask him or her to direct you; direct him or her. Try not to censor anything giving voice to your orgasm can be the most exciting part of all. Phone sex forces you to talk - or at least moan and sigh - because you can’t touch or see each other’s expressions. Besides, phone sex is a hot alternative whether you’re shy or bold. You can ask for things you’re shy about when face-to-face.

Lie down in bed, get very comfortable, and begin a genital caress.

MAKE THAT CALL!

All you need to do is let yourself go….